Ah yes, it’s that time of year again. Even those who are in relationships feel the crippling, pink-hued pressure of Valentine’s Day. Most of the February 14th media blitz involves a barrage of pieces on finding true love despite the odds, cooking the perfect romantic dinner, and uncommon edible aphrodisiacs.
This post is, instead, dedicated to those who will be sitting at home tonight, plugging up their ears and vowing to never love again. To that end, here’s some recommended reading. These books are, I think, as soul-crushing as reruns of The Bachelor but with the added benefit of enriching your life in the long-term.
Ariel: The Restored Edition by Sylvia Plath. I don’t have ample space to describe my extravagant love of this book, particularly the restored edition with Plath’s original arrangement and notes. Suffice it to say, Ariel is a black-hearted masterpiece of intricately-wrought pain. And we, too, had a relationship-/Tight wires between us,/Pegs too deep to uproot, and a mind like a ring/ Sliding shut on some quick thing,/The constriction killing me also.
The Stranger by Albert Camus. There’s not much room for conventional love in Camus’ brand of existentialism. To wit: She was wearing a pair of my pajamas with the sleeves rolled up. When she laughed I wanted her again. A minute later she asked me if I loved her. I told her it didn't mean anything but that I didn't think so. She looked sad. Odds are high that this scene is currently being replayed in living rooms throughout the tri-state area.
Revolutionary Road by Richard Yates. You might’ve seen the film by Sam Mendes, about a suburban couple struggling within the rigid confines of their societal roles as husband and wife. A meditation on love as much as the expectations of American life, Revolutionary Road is visceral and heart-breaking.
On Chesil Beach by Ian McEwan. One of the most devastating books I’ve ever read, set on the English coast in 1962. The narrative unfurls over a couple’s wedding night, both of them virgins and in vastly different states of preparedness. What follows is deeply upsetting, but ultimately, a transcendent argument for true intimacy.
As Yeats says, "only an aching heart conceives a changeless work of art." Heartbreak is necessary, but hope is too. Happy Valentine's Day to you and yours. <3
